Somewhat balanced thoughts after the #womensmarch

The right to protest peacefully is a wonderful thing.

Men (and women) should talk about and treat women (and men) with dignity and respect.

Expressing disgust about a man’s horrible comments or behavior is not whining.

Some women sincerely never have felt inferior or looked down upon due to their gender. Some women genuinely have experienced sexual discrimination or abuse. Respect their outlooks.

The best way to encourage a change in culture is consistently to call out reprehensible, sexist comments and behaviors, despite the offender’s political affiliation. The White House has seen its fair share of sexual harassment. Call it all out. If you don’t, you lose credibility.

Not all men are unkind and rude. Not all women are kind and polite.

There are latte-sipping conservative women who have little personal contact with women who are struggling to make ends meet. There are latte-sipping liberal women who rarely have personal contact with women who live in financial crisis. The numbers might be surprisingly similar.

There are liberal women and conservative women who volunteer with Big Brothers Big Sisters, the Boys and Girls Club, or similar organizations and in soup kitchens, women’s shelters and public schools. If you do not know this fact to be true, it would be good to expand your circle of acquaintances.

Insulting any person’s outward appearance is shallow, rude and mean. If someone does this, do not retaliate by doing the same. That would be counterproductive and juvenile.

Comparisons to Hitler and Nazi Germany are rarely helpful.

There are female CEOs in male-dominated professions who feel they have been treated fairly. There are women aspiring to “shatter the glass ceiling” who believe their gender has been an obstacle. Listen to their stories.

There is debate about whether or not a pro-life feminist can truly be a feminist. The New Wave Feminists were removed as Women’s March sponsors because of their view of abortion. You can determine the wisdom of that.

To expect people to stand quietly on the sidelines while watching what they consider to be the ending of innocent human lives is odd. Don’t we all have a moral obligation to stand up for justice as we perceive it?

The high rate of sex-selective abortions in certain Asian countries guarantees that fewer baby girls will be born. This should be of concern for feminists.

Using the terms “pro-choice” and “pro-life,” the labels by which each side self-identifies, is best. Using “anti-choice” and “anti-life” hinders conversation.

Females outnumber males in U.S. colleges & have, for years, gotten more bachelor’s and doctoral degrees. In 2012 the ratio was 141 women to 100 men in graduate school.

In some countries girls cannot be educated and genital mutilation is allowed. Women can’t vote or drive or have their heads uncovered in certain nations. Rapists and domestic abusers are not prosecuted in some places. In the United States women have the same human rights as men, but this does not mean that they are never discriminated against or marginalized. Clearly, we still have work to do.

Human trafficking is a major problem in the U.S. and beyond.

In the U.S. there is virtually no talk of abolishing a woman’s right to birth control. With some people there is an issue as to who should pay for it. Even in the case of Hobby Lobby, the company’s insurance covered all forms of birth control except what they considered abortifacients.

People at the Women’s March in D.C had no idea that Madonna would say she has “thought an awful lot of blowing up the White House.” Many of them regretted her words and reacted the same way they would have if a conservative ever publicly had said something like that. Such inflammatory speech should have no place in what we consider acceptable, no matter who says it.

It is likely (in my opinion) that in 2016 a woman perceived as honest and trustworthy would have been elected president of the United States.

Rap lyrics, song lyrics, magazine spreads and Hollywood/TV portrayals that demean women often fall into the category of protected speech but are pathetic.

Finally, I will say this only from personal experience. People seem to understand an especially attractive woman dating or marrying a not-so-attractive man more than vice versa. That indicates something. People generally do not comment on a woman’s weight while they feel more freedom to pat a man’s stomach or comment if he has gained weight. Rude! Let’s try to treat other people the way we want to be treated.

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